December 28, 2008

I'm Wifey Material but why am I still single?!

Sooooooooooooooooooooooooooo the other day my friend and I were talking about how guys always have that one WOMAN, not girl because women are on a whole different level and than a girl who they know that is just that one who is perfect for them. Guys always spitting "game" saying that they are perfect that this woman makes them into the better man, yada yada yada (if you are wifey material you know what I am talking about). We hear the same game over and over again but when it gets down to it these same guys run off with our hearts not wanting to commit to us. I just don't understand why you are shopping at the dollar store when you can buy anything from rodeo drive (lol ya'll like that?!)

I have had so many different experiences with different guys where they have told me that I am the one because I am smart, pretty, and have my mind right. While they were spitting this mad game at me (and me being a fool who wants to fall in love believed every single word of it) they was out messing with other females who couldn't even compete with me in Uno (lol). I know I may sound a little conceited, trust I'm not, I just been so hurt and tired of all these guys out in the world saying that they are tired of these "Hoes" in the world who break their hearts and sleep around with their whole crew....... If you are so tired of all of this, then why do you keep going back to them when there are WOMEN out there who have their lives together. Now I would understand if I didn't have anything to offer someone in a relationship but I feel like my life is somewhat together lol. I'm a grad student, have a wonderful job, not that crazy lol, decent to look at (i think i am pretty......), THICKALICOUS, and o so ready to not to be single anymore but why am I single when everyone considers I am wifey material?!

I feel as though every guy I have talked to has always put me on the back burner once they find out that I am not gonna give it up that quickly. Why is that?! Is sex that overrated for people to miss out on a grand opportunity of meeting their soulmate? I mean I understand once you start having sex you will always have a temptation to keep doing it, but does this truly affect your relationship?! I'm not saying that I haven't had sex, but I am a new woman who has seen that sex is something sacred between two people who are deeply in love with eachother and have a stronger bond than just boyfriend and girlfriend. So just because I believe in this affects the way men approach me?! I think that is truly sad, I think if you truly want something then you will do anything to have it right?! So why not leave these girls alone and get with someone that will become your wife?

I might have to make a part 2 to this to go more in depth but this is just a little taste of what I wanted to get off of my chest.

December 27, 2008

New Year, New me?! Hopefully............

So I am starting to make my list of Goals for the New year and here is what I have so far.
  • Keep my apartment clean
  • Study everyday
  • read books that I enjoy
  • No fast food
  • take care of myself
  • eat more fruits and veggies
  • exercise more often
  • save money from each check
  • stop being lazy
  • organize my life
  • attend more programs and events
  • movie nights with my wonderful staff
  • be more productive during the weekends
  • take care of my hair
  • start a facial care routine
  • no junk food
  • study more in my bible
  • talk to my Heavenly Father more
  • Develop a new workout every week, so I won't get tired/bored of working out
  • Don't quit anything
  • eat breakfast
  • drinks LOTS of water with my new watter bottle
  • 100 sit ups a day
  • 100 jumping jacks a day
  • BLOG EVERYDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (I really want to do this for real, its a stress relief)
  • Keep my hair done cause I cant be looking a hot mess
  • Read "A Mercy"
  • Start a running routine

That is what I have so far and I will keep you all posted if these things work out. Oh yea and keep your eyes open because I'm bout to blog everyday about 101 black women and about things that I need to get off of my chest lol trust if you want to be entertain you will become a faithful follower of my blog.

November 18, 2008

The Queen of Sheba- Woman of Mystery

Many people think that the origins of the Queen of Sheba is a mystery, not in Ethiopia. They believe the woman who entranced King Solomon was the Ethiopian queen Makeda. Queen Makeda was born in 1020 B.C.E., when her father died she became the queen over the land and it was reported that she was both beautiful and rich.

Makeda found out about King Solomon of Jerusalem through an Ethiopian merchant prince named Tamrin. The queen was so impressed with the description of the king that she traveled to Jerusalem to meet him.

When she arrived in Jerusalem, King Solomon wined and dined her and her entourage, paying special attention to Makeda. They both were delighted with eachother's company that Solomon converted her to his religion Judaism.

While she stayed with King Solomon Makeda became pregnant with his child. Though she was pregnant she had to return her country to rule. Shortly after she returned to Sheba she gave birth to a son naming him Ebna Hakim meaning "son of the wise man."

As the legend goes when their son turned 22 he was sent to visit his father. Solomon was overjoyed to see his son. Solomon wanted him to stay in Jerusalem to become his successor but Ebna wanted to return to Sheba. Solomon let him go sending his counselors' sons who were trained in Hebraic law. These missionaries formed a community of the Falasha (Black Jews- bet ya'll didn't know there were Black Jews in the world) of Ethiiopia, who still form a significant part of the population.

To read more about the Queen of Sheba check this site out- Enjoy!!!!

November 17, 2008

Tiye- Nubian Queen

The first remarkable Black woman I read about in my new book is Tiye a Nubian Queen. Just to let you know I am recieveing all of my info from the book In Her Footsteps.

She was known as the queen mother of Egypt and remain in that position for half a century. Born in 1415 B.C.E. in Nubia. By the time of the reighn of Amenhotep III, Egypt had subjugated Nubia. Against his custom Amenhotep III chose to marry Tiye for political reasons and also because of true love. The custom in Egypt was for a pharoh to marry a daughter of the pharoh in order to keep the royal bloodline pure (which meant that pharohs would usually marry their sister or even their daughters).

Amenhotep III truly loved Tiye, he described her as the Princess, the most praised, the lady of grace, sweet in her love, who fills the palace with her beauty, the Regent of the North and the South, the Great Wife of the King who loves her....... (side note: gosh I pray that my husband will think of me like this). He also demostrated his love by building her a temple in her honor which was the first time in Egyptian history that a queen had recieved such an honor. When sculptures and painting would depict the queen usually she would be half the size of the king but Amenhotep III made sure she was portrayed as an equal.

Tiye was only 13 when she was married and had at least 7 children. After her husband died her son Akhenaten became pharoah. While her husband reign, she helped him to coordinate state policies and her role continued with her son's reign.

Her reign as queen marked a change in the status of women. For the first time a commoner was proclaimed and depicted as the equal of the king.

To learn more about her check this site out:

In Her Footsteps.......

Hey Everybody!!!!! This is my first blog under Single Sassy and Saved! I am super excited about this. I have blogged before but haven't really kept up with it but I am DETERMINED to keep up with this one (I promise). Before I start anything I just want everyone to leave feedback please!!!!!!!!!!!!! I love to hear other peoples opinions.

Ok to my blog now...... I just started volunteering at W.E.B. Dubois Learning Center in Kansas City and I love it. I am tutoring kids in math which has been my dream for the longest. Anywho, this past Saturday we had a Staff Meeting and at every meeting they give away prizes to people who attended the meeting and I received a prize!!!!!!! Do you know how excited I was to receive this prize?! Well the prize that I won was a book called In Her Footsteps which is a book that list 101 remarkable Black Women. I was so pumped for this book because based upon my friend Shenena I am all about my Black Heritage, which I am but trust I truly embrace all of the cultures but I REALLY EMBRACE MY CULTURE. So one of the main reasons why I decided to start this blog was to talk about some of these Black women in the book. I think it is so much Black History that people do not know because our education does not take the time out to teach it. So I am going to school some peeps on it. I will start the list when I get back from my classes today lol I have to run to class. So I hope you will come back later to read about 101 Remarkable Black Women!!!!